This paper will compare and contrast the two essays: A Few Words About Breasts: Shaping Up Absurd by Nora Eptron and The Importance of Dissimulation by Shirley Abbott. In A Few Words About Breasts: Shaping Up Absurd, Eptron successfully makes the issue of small breasts a matter of identity and appearance in many ways. In The Importance of Dissimulation by Shirley Abbott, much detail is given on the ways of men and the ways a Southern Belle needs to be in order to capture men. In both essays, it's clear to see the behavior of women that leads to destructive relationships.